At some point in our lives, we all have felt dissatisfied, sadness and anxiety. When we want something so bad, but fail to grasp it, the sense of failure and disappointment follows. What if all of those negative emotions could be avoided by simply changing the way we think and the way we interact with life?
When thinking about our past, we often find that we are too attached, identifying ourselves with it. We carry our pasts like a heavy burden that keeps us from seeing and experiencing the present moment. Once we learn to let go of our past and let bygones be bygones, a whole new world of possibilities arises. Also, we tend to spend far too much time thinking about the future, planning it, worrying about it. But we cannot know and predict every possible outcome, just for the sake of being ready for everything. Nor will the fear of tomorrow change anything. It will only weaken our will. We have to be strong and positive. Let the life show us what it’s got in store for us. Whatever happens, we can always see the good side of it all, learn from it. Just relax and slow down. Look at your surroundings… Feel them, experience them. When you let go of the concepts of the past and the future, you can enjoy in now, in every ray of the sunshine, in every drop of the rain.
Each and every one of us wants something for ourselves. A new car, a bigger house, better job, nice vacation… But how much of that stuff that we crave for we really need? And for whom do we need it for? For ourselves or for the world and people around us? In this day and age life has turned into a rat race. We want more of everything. In all that demanding we forget what is most important: our inner peace and happiness. Happiness won’t come when we reach an imaginary goal, it comes from within ourselves. We generate happiness. Or, sadly, most of the time, it is opposite. Try to think how many positive people have you met today or how many nice things have you heard? We live in negative society that is too focused on finding faults in everything. And what you water is what grows.
Last week I had a 22-minutes long conversation with a client over the phone. He called to complain about some of his ads being deleted from the company’s web site. Long story short, it was the company’s stance that he broke the rules of advertising, hence his ads were deleted. And usually, this type of conversation would really tick me off, knowing that he has done something wrong, but still finds it appropriate to complain. At that moment my knowledge was put to use. I wasn’t angry at this man, nor at the fact that I had to explain him everything. I understood him. I realized that he wasn’t some kind of a rule breaker or a bad person. He is just human, like we all are, but so often forget, minding only our own interests. Finally, after 22 minutes of our conversation, we found a common ground. It felt so good and liberating to be at peace.
Feeling quite often off-balanced and carried away with our emotions, my husband and I searched for a solution and found our way into Buddhism. The simplicity of thought, the way of feeling more true to life itself with every passing word, it is an eye-opener. It is such an awarding feeling when you realize how we are all alike. When you can cherish and understand yourself, people around you and life in general. To be able to see the good in everyone, no matter how hard it may seem. That is what Buddhism taught me and yet, there is so much more to be learned.
It is not the learning process itself that is an adventure, but making use of that knowledge and never forgetting what good can it do for you. If we could all just think and act a little more positive, see good in people and in life, not just the negative sides of it all, don’t you think this world would be a better place to live in? I certainly believe so.